How to be happy

Happiness is what everyone wants.  But no one seems to know where it is?  Or where to find it?

Is it at work?  At the gym?  In the mall?  Is it something you buy?  Obtain?  Gather?

People search for it.  They claim to desire it.  They want it.  But where is it?

Can you call someone to get it?  Or give it to you?  Is Happiness gained from another person?  Other people?

Or is happiness right in front of you, maybe so deep inside your own person, that you can’t even imagine it’s even there to access it?

Think about it.  The happiest people you know aren’t happy because something or someone else gave it to them…they just woke up that way.  They decided to be happy.  They chose to believe in their minds that they are happy.

Charles R Swindoll “Grace Awakening” says, “Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% what I do about it.”  So if you are running out of money, your spouse is cheating and your adorable dog keeps shitting on the carpet…that’s just 10%.  The other 90% is 100% you!  What are you going to do about the crappy 10%?   Run?  Hide?  Freak out?  Yell?  Scream?  Hate everything?  Or are you going to realize just because things are bad doesn’t mean you can’t be happy.  The crappy is only 10%.  Now you get to choose the other 90%.  What are you going to do.  YOU.  You can choose to put that 90% into a negative hopeless pile or put it into a positive.

Like Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz, she went looking for a way to get home when she had the ability to get there the whole time all by herself.  Imagine if you realized right now that you had the power to be happy.  All by yourself?  Just because of what you thought about and the perspective you saw and felt in your mind.

People think other people will bring them happiness or make them happy.  Danger Will Robinson!  You are the only person responsible for your own happiness.  Sure others can upset you or bring you down but if you are happy on the inside and out, no one can destroy that.

Many religions say you are born with everything you need.  Sure we need stuff here and there but really do you need a new car when the one you have is doing just fine?  Do you need the new iPhone 9 when the 4 works perfectly?   Will having either of them make you happy?  Maybe for a few days…or weeks…but a lifetime?  No, you’ll need something new to keep this fake happiness going!

Here is the bottom line: You want to be happy?  Right now?  Look around where you are and feel satisfied with what you have.  Be grateful.  The computer in front of you?  (cool!)  The bed you are sitting on?  (yeah!) The cat sitting next to you?  (smelly! but cute!)  How many friends do you have?  1?  80?  Everything you have in your life be it tons or little is just what you need to be happy from the inside out.

If you don’t want to be happy, start thinking about all that you are missing out on, stuff you don’t have, a life you think you should have that you don’t.

Which makes you feel better?  Which makes you feel happier?

Get it?


Now stop complaining and good live a happy life.  By choice.

How to be happy